My Lane not Yours!

On a particular wonderful day, when I was in the process of giving my best on a skill I am trying to perfect, something extraordinary happened! This extraordinary thing was on an extra ordinary plane, my cells were shocked and in cases like this, I lose all sense of touch. So what happened?

One of the ladies in my small group of those attaining perfection, didn’t bother raising up her hand as she boldly declared, ‘No one should be offended but that I (myself) should not be given the responsibility of delivering this skill as it has such a powerful aim and she would prefer XYZ to do this.’ So I was literally cut short when I was ready to give it my best.

I was weak and utterly speechless! Thank God for my black skin because any other colour would have faded instantly!

Please bear in mind that the Appointer of skill power (which is the bold declaring lady) is not the head of the skill group. She is just, let’s say ‘just like me- on the path of skill perfecting’.

What happened next?

I ensured I left the venue without saying much to anyone because I could not vouch for how analytical I would get on them.

A friend of mine decided to call me and asked how my day was going! Haha! That was when the analysis began! I told her the story and I kept saying to myself that this embarrassment and public heavy landing on the floor that happened to me would be a constant reminder to my body cells. However my friend made a statement - She said ‘Everyone is on their journey and maybe that woman’s journey is trying to work on how she makes/passes her points across in public’. This was like a mental battery change for me.

Maybe, just maybe, one of this woman’s prayer point is ‘Lord, please help me speak kindly or non-offensive even when things do not go my way’ Just maybe.

My thoughts started running and it went beyond what her prayer points might be to what everyone might be going through individually to how I relate to every other person apart from me.

Just maybe that reserved girl who seems secretive is on a journey of believing in trust again!

Just maybe, that man who seem to have it all and then ends on his back, has always been on a journey of humility!

Just maybe that girl was rude to you and you wonder what manners has she not. Just maybe she is in a journey of self-confidence!

Just maybe that person is not as organised as you and you find them irresponsible. Just maybe, they are in a journey of attaining peace!

Just maybe, that man who is confident today and tomorrow unsure of himself, is praying every day for the Spirit of power and sound mind!

Just maybe, that girl wearing the big shirt and baggy trousers, acting like a guy who you think is confused is really trying not to be confused but she does not know how!

Just maybe that person who sounds timid and constantly putting you off is on a journey of pushing aside those inferiority thoughts with God’s words!

Just maybe, that very all put together lady, is all pieces and pieces glued together and when she breaks down, you laugh’ and you do not even know if she is in the journey of wanting to be the virtuous woman she desires!

Just maybe, that person you snicker at or find their situation funny, really is looking for a way out of that situation.

Just maybe the person who laughs at you or snickers at you, is really looking for a way out of that habit.

Just maybe, if we see beyond what we look at, we just might be able to meet someone somewhere on that journey and take them closer to their goal.

Just maybe if that lady could have seen I am on a journey of perfecting this skill, she might have realised her comment was powerful enough to take me back 4 steps.

Just maybe if we truly see that no one is perfect; then I ask, shall we continue in imperfection so that kindness may abound?

How much harm can kindness do to you? Weaken you? Yes, it is possible. That’s if you are not in any journey at all! If you like the wings of others to carry you or the kindness of others to encourage you even if you know personally you are not making any attempt to move!  Then maybe, just maybe, someone who is not in any lane, is trying to find one!

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