I once wrote a poem about what love is and I made a statement saying 'Love is what happens when all the hormones are gone. You can watch full clip here> Who is Love?
Are the hormones important? Yes of course! The excitement and increase in heart beat when we see the one we love or when we walk down the aisle or when we spend quality time with them, do not just happen on their own! God has blessed us with hormones to send out the signals and then we have the HolySpirit in us to help us control them!
Now, onto physical attraction: Take a look at your significant other and write down the first five things about them that makes/keeps you physically attracted to them. (Do You Know: Some people are physically attracted to their spouses but have never really thought of what exactly could that be?)
Key word,physical attraction not character attraction or mental attraction.
Genesis 1:31:God SAW all that He had made and it was VERY GOOD!
So what do you see, that makes you FEEL GOOD?
Now onto Feeling good, the caveat here is, feelings are for a moment. 2 Corinthians 5:7 tells us to walk by faith and not by sight. We should walk by what we hope for/believe in/trust God for/unconditional love and not by what our eyes can see/our hormones can feel/the physical attraction.....
What we see now, will fade.
What is in trend now, will end.
What you fight over now, will become irrelevant.
The most important things to you now, will be the least important things in years to come.
The physical attraction we desire to have, is at the mercy of time.
Before, I DO, certain things seemed important, after I DO, they lose their position.
Yes, it is important to stay/be VERY GOOD just as our Father in Heaven made us but more importantly, it is to not have the foundation of a relationship/marriage hinging on it. Proverbs 31:30 tells us that Charm is deceitful and beauty is in vain but a woman that fears the Lord shall be praised.
The beauty of home is not directly proportional to the beauty of its occupants but in the beauty of their hearts and memories of each other.
This video here How would you react if you saw the 70 years old version of your husband? is the inspiration for this post.
I have been reminded by the video that:
- Physical beauty is for a moment. Cherish and take care excellent care of it.
- Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Love your beholder unconditionally.
-Do not invest in Beauty, you have no resources for memories. One fades and the other is generational.
-Underneath the change in appearance is the real person we are in love with. Let our love not be dependent on beauty, feelings, emotions, so that when all this cease to exist, our 'love' does not follow suit.
-The function of the heart/hormones is independent of the skin's aging process. Use time to build love and with love, fill time with fond memories.
-Always remember how it all started when you start forgetting why it ever began.
-Never procrastinate. A time is coming when all you can do is speak without saying words. Speak all you can, when you can. Love in all manner of ways, when you can and grow in all fronts, when you can. A time is coming when all you can do is look back together and what a joy to be able to be on the same level with your spouse, with no words spoken but with smiles screaming 'JOB WELL DONE BOO!'
-Fill your home with Love. Unconditional Love. Let the sacrifices you make now, not cause you to be lonely in your old age even in the midst of company.
-Even when the kids become adult, they cannot/will stay with you for ever! You have trained them well enough to go and take over their world; which leaves you and your spouse alone. Never forget about loving/staying a friend to your spouse when raising your kids. Your kids will be raised and rise up to go forth; your spouse will be the only one remaining with you. Remember to be friends.
I think I have dissected this video (How would you react if you saw the 70 years old version of your husband?) enough! LoL!
Feel free to share your thoughts and I would love to hear them all!
